The 'he' here refers to the lovely man in my life.... -hubby . Chances are i have a fresh recollection of how i looked when we met , and therefore i have a good idea of how he views me right now.Clearly i have added almost 20kgs.The question is not whether he loves me less- with all the sag and butt wag, am sure he loves me as much as he says he does. Rather the issue here is how much does he (really ) like/mind my weightgain?
I know i keep asking him " baby how do i look in this" but if he were to tell me the truth as he sees it - i think that would be a" one way Never return ticket to Hell. :-)"
So ladies why do we ask ? such questions - Have i added weight ? et al when we know the answers to those questions and we would go for his neck if he gave his honest opinion?
Am wondering loudly why we do it - seems most men fall victim to this question . Why do we really ask for an opinion AND are not be willing to hear the answer . He knows this and his answer to " do i look huge in this" is always - " bby are you kidding ? you look hotter than ever ' or " you are forever going ....bla bla bla"
Most of the time we ladies have the answers in our heads so it beats the guys why we ever ask. Although i know there are a few fellows who are bold enough to sugar coat it "thats a perfect weight but dont add a gramme",translation - eee you are on the verge of going overboard or " hey am feeding you well" translation - uuhmm you been eating for three ...etc
Well am pretty sure we know the answers to those questions and our own honest answer is all we need.
It would be a bonus if my hubby loves the way i look , but as long as i love the way i look , then everyone is happy .
So if you feel you wanna loose some pounds , save the fella the trouble , and answer your own rhetorical questions.And do something about your weight if you think you need to .
My motivation should be intrinsic, although i must say theres a thin line between asking and being incessant . Which God help me i hope am not being , where everybody around hubby included may be thinking .. oook so youre going to the gym , kudos but the sun is still yellow and the sky is still blue so GETOVER IT!!!
PS- I was looking for weightloss buddies- will share on that soon - i have three already.
Still going to the gym and so far i am so fit and loving the results.